How often do you say “no” to things that would interfere with your goals?
Not very often, basically I’m a “yes” man, I believe it’s my need to help or maybe wanting to be liked or appreciated. This has been a problem my entire life, it creates a problem in my marriage and other relationships that I truly am invested in but deny them because of my saying yes to other people and no to them. I have a job, it’s a part time gig so my afternoons are free, years ago when I was a maintenance man on a property of 60 single family homes occupied by mostly widows and older adults a woman asked me to take the leaves in her backyard so naturally I said yes, well fast forward 8 years I now have 15 yards to rake as well as other landscaping projects. Although I do enjoy the work my plan was to do it until they started dying off, but lo and behold they’re still here and as vibrant as ever. Meanwhile my wife has been waiting for me to finish a bathroom renovation I started 7 years ago. Luckily for me it’s a second bathroom and she doesn’t nag me about it because the main bathroom is beautifully done, but still a good husband would finish the project already.
Dan the man 