Dan the man

I was 38 years old and moving to Florida from Connecticut, that was as close as I ever got to feeling like an adult…27 years ago. I always lived within 8 miles of my parents house and even closer for work, which was a family business so I was always surrounded by family a family I felt I didn’t belong to. I wasn’t really close to my father he was busy working day and night to support his family, he was the most responsible person I ever knew and hardest working. Mom stayed home and raised four boys and did the best she could which wasn’t that bad none of us ended up in prison or a dope addict are an alcoholic, I think a couple of us dabbled in it, but for me I got tired of feeling shitty and useless. We all married good women and had solid families of our own, we each have children and now grandchildren that are good human beings so all and all my parents did well raising a family. My two older brothers also did good for themselves no breakups or divorces and my younger brother has been married for thirty five plus years. I on the other hand was married to my first wife for eleven years we had two children, boys, but our marriage was a train wreck after ten years and just got worse by the day. I was definitely not prepared for a divorce, but it was inevitable and she took everything from me and put the boys against me so now after thirty five years my oldest son talks to me maybe five times a year and my youngest son doesn’t talk to me at all. I never blamed them for hating me that all she ever spoke to them was how terrible I was. So after all that I left for Florida in the hopes of rebuilding myself as a person to find who and what I wanted to be not just my parents son who also works for them. Since leaving Connecticut I have had countless adventures that touched my soul and broke my heart, but learned to cope with them and all the other emotions that we humans have. Life is wonderful and tragic in my own personal experience is the more I laugh the lighter life gets. I married an amazing woman nearly ten years ago who shares a similar view of life, but even better than that she chose to spend her life with me… that alone inspired me to be a better person if not for me for her… Maybe that was the moment I became an adult.