Dan the man

I imagine there were a few throughout my life mostly later in my life. In my youth my parents didn’t hand out compliments very often my dad’s version was one simple word, good, because if it wasn’t good it was bad and he didn’t tolerate bad. My mom was complimenting, but it came with bias and criticism and a story about how someone did it better. I believe I evolved out of that type of behavior and speech it’s always a conscious effort to hold your tongue in situations where most feel the need to speak their minds I stay silent, I feel I’m a better version of myself because of that. When I was a caregiver I did receive compliments a lot, but honestly I was just doing my job, in retrospect I was easing the burden of his loved ones who took care of him for years and I soon realized the toll it takes on those loved ones so I became very aware of the power of compliments and use them often especially with my wife who I feel deserves a lot of them. Coming over from Thailand to provide a better life for her mom and sister is a huge sacrifice, but she sees the results of her efforts through her hard work, when we met she was here on a six month visa working seven days a week after she went back to Thailand I told myself if she ever returned to America I will marry her and it was over a year and a half later when she did we married right away and so began our amazing life. I make a point of complimenting her as she does me which is every day, we both work hard for what we both want… a better life and we’re going along very nicely with a nice home in America and a nicer home in Thailand we also travel to Thailand every year and as I’m writing this we’re at a private island beach resort in the gulf of Thailand that is just taking my breath away. Compliments, use as need and offer.