Apples, bananas, pears, mangoes and papayas. I also eat nearly every fruit that I come across when traveling. Growing up in the northeast apple orchards were everywhere they grew other fruits as well like peaches and pears some even had a field for berries which you can go and pick your own. My all time favorite fruit are my children… they didn’t fall far from the tree.
Funny, when I bought this house in 2008 my intention was to flip it in a couple of years, here we are 17 years later I’m finally moving on. In 1998 I made a decision to move to Florida, I was 38 years old and have been living in an aquarium type of life that I didn’t want or enjoy. An opportunity came to me and I jumped at it, mom was sad, dad and my brothers were happy, I will never know if they were happy for me or happy to be rid of me, some questions are better left unanswered. I flew to Orlando because it was closest to my friends house, I ultimately ended up in Venice to give my friend his life with his family back. I will never be that guy who crashes on your couch indefinitely, I respect people’s lives and their choices and all I want is the same in return. This was all happening at that point between pagers and cell phones so I was only able to call mom when I was home. Ocala was nice, really nice, but it was during a brief conversation with my dad that he mentioned his friends in Venice and thought it would be nice to go down there and see them. So one day I decided to visit them, it’s a two and a half hour drive and turned out to be worth every mile. When I stepped foot on Venice Beach for the first time it brought me closer to nature, GOD and myself, it was still springtime, but the air was already a little heavier with humidity, I must have spent half the day in and out of the water, swim for an hour or so and lay out on the sand and let the sun dry my skin. I sold my pan head to make the move, in hindsight I should have brought it with me, but in my mind I was beginning a new life stripping off the “old” me down to bare bones and going to become the person I always knew I was. I spent the next few years living outside my comfort zone, I volunteered at the local theatre because I was terrified of being on stage. I auditioned To kill a mocking bird, my knees were knocking so much I believe they could actually hear them. I didn’t get the part, no biggie, a few weeks later I auditioned for A street car named desire and got a small part with a few lines. I put everything into that role and it paid off, after that I spent the following six years there, it helped me to overcome a lot of my fears and connect with my community. Sadly I had to stop the theatre and find a second job to pay my child support that I fell behind on. I Since then I’ve found love, lost love had success, lost almost everything and bought my home, all the while making time to enjoy the sunset nearly every night. I’ve got married to a Thai girl that has been my unicorn, my once in a lifetime wife. We’re the best when we’re together, but function great on our own. When we decided to move it was a surprisingly easy conversation and now that we have our house on the market and have moved into our house in the mountains life still seems very natural, comfortable we are at peace in our lives, obviously once the house sells we will breathe a little easier in the meantime we don’t spend foolishly and are very content. A these wonderful feelings were so alien to me, every relationship I’ve ever been in has started with a passion that consumed both of us, but as time passed we realized that was the only reason we were together. Funny thing about sex, when it wanes off you must look at what’s left, that’s usually the point where the arguments start and within months you can’t look at each other without disdain, soon after you hate each other so bad you have no choice but to leave, but the anger stays until a wall is built around your heart that is so dense no one can get in. There comes a day when you realize you are the only one to break down that wall and live life freely, openly with no inhibitions, no regrets just love yourself purely and the unicorn will come into your life like it did for me and so many other people the next thing you know you’re looking at your amazing life and wondering how you got there like me, my advice is in the words of the immortal Bruce Lee… “be water my friend” it’s that simple.
What place in the world do you never want to visit? Why?
Los Angeles, thirty years ago I would have jumped at the opportunity to go to LA, but today it just seems to be a cancerous city. San Francisco has fallen into the same vein, there are still many, many areas of California I would love to see before I’m gone. The north or South Pole where there is nothing but cold and snow, Mt. Everest. The other end of the spectrum is Arizona, Las Vegas, Ecuador. India because of the oppressive heat and billions of people, there is nothing attractive about meandering through a city where everyone is sweating profusely and are shoulder to shoulder. There are many places in the world I would not want to see which is great really because I have a pretty good chance of seeing the places I do want to see.
What tattoo do you want and where would you put it?
I’ve had tattoos since I was seventeen. My first one was a skull with a top hat smoking a cigar I had put just under my left shoulder. Tattoos were illegal in CT. So we had to drive to Rhode Island to get it. Sailor Joe’s was the name of the place and Joe was the busiest guy in the business because he was located near the naval shipyard. Back then, the late seventies the only people with tattoos were sailors and felons, that’s what we were told, my dad was a sailor and had four tattoos all related to the navy and American. My second oldest brother was the first of the sons to get a tattoo then my oldest brother was next. He stopped after two my second oldest got dozens of the I got one and after listening to my mother degrade me I stopped for a few years and then got four more. Then life got busy, a wife, a house, kids, responsibilities sidelined my tattoos until my fifties. I now have about seventy five percent of my body covered with beautiful tattoos from one guy I found in Buffalo NY. A tiger and dragon covers my entire back, koi fish on each pec on my chest, bald eagle carrying a snake with his claws on my left arm Neptune in his watery realm on my right arm, a geisha girl on my right side from my armpit to my knee, a peacock on my left side from my armpit to my knee, our family coat of arms on my left thigh, a ninja skull with swords and throwing stars on my right thigh, a mid evil gladiator on my right calf side. That about “covers” my tattoos. I enjoy them and love where they have evolved in today’s society, other than neck tattoos I don’t understand stand that one, but not my neck so who cares.
Write a letter to your 100-year-old self.
It’s a miracle you’ve made it this far. I can’t count how many times you’ve dodged death, your guardian angels have been working overtime to get you here. Maybe now you’ll take life seriously and grow up, or at the very least settle down. NAH! You’re having way too much fun, life has been nothing less than extraordinary, you’ve traveled the world even lived in Thailand with your beautiful wife how is instrumental in getting you where you are today. You past is past, you stopped dwelling on it around you fifties that’s when your life really too off. You’ve managed to stay pretty healthy throughout your life, you have loved and lost and those were the best lessons you learned from. Like many your age you have had to say goodbye to many of your loved ones, but you have a knack for making friends at the drop of a hat. Keep doing whatever it is that you do because you have an amazing life and when you’re ready to move on do so with the same love and passion you have lived here. Godspeed.
What is the biggest challenge you will face in the next six months?
Moving to another state and beginning a new job. My wife and I have been wanting to do this for quite a few years, but as we all know to well we become comfortable in our current situation and for me I received a substantial increase in my income after the new year so I’m making great money now. My wife has taken on more work in other industries and is earning more as well. About two months ago an opportunity was offered to us to move where we wanted to so we agreed and decided to pull the trigger, we still have about another month and a half to go, but it all feels right. Our housing situation there is taken care of and relatively affordable and living in Florida for the past 25 years and watching the market go up and down I believe we can sell our house for a decent price given today’s economy. I feel Florida has become tarnished to me, our town is no longer a sleepy little fishing town, now it’s been overdeveloped and sold to anyone who can afford to move here. People, traffic, superstores it all sucked the life out of me. I no longer belong here, the Gulf of Mexico is polluted more than ever, so my morning swim is over, the roads are too crowded to ride my bike, so our best option is to find a place we love and we did. My life in SWFlorida has been amazing really, I experienced all of my personal growth here made solid friendships, meet my wife here. I’m less than 2 years away from retirement, our plan is to spend half the year here and spend the rest in Thailand where my wife is from and where we have a new home and just bought a farm to work while we’re there and her family can run while we’re here. So all and all I welcome change, some people don’t I do my best to embrace it.
What cities do you want to visit?
I don’t think there are any cities in America that I want to see now, they’ve become soiled, filthy and dangerous. Europe and Asia are a bit different and I’m sure there are a lot of crimes against tourists in many countries and cities, but my experience so far has been positive in Thailand where we visited many cities, we then went to Vietnam and did two major cities there with great experiences, Switzerland we visited nearly a dozen cities all were amazing and as safe as can be, Paris was great, but you have to be aware of your surroundings and what’s happening. We still have a pretty long list of places to visit I don’t think there are any major cities on it. Growing up in the eighties in CT. We would take the train into New York a few times a year and I believe it was dicey back then, but the crowds were smaller, less people living there and the crime was different, not as violent or deadly as today. I always wanted to go out west to California to see LA, now I have friends that live there and regret moving there, they show me how the streets are even the beaches lost their charm and beauty. The world has changed and not really for the better, we’re an angry society that flies off the handle and hurts people at the drop of a hat. I don’t see any end in sight, maybe it’s because I’m old and having a hard time seeing the good side of life. Maybe it’s because I know the real value in life is not money, but it’s the only thing people today do anything for, they’re lacking insight and don’t see the world as it should be seen. For Mr the value is in the moment the here and now.
Tell us about your first day at something — school, work, as a parent, etc.
My first time on an international flight was almost 6 years ago, even before that my first time on an airplane was when I was 37 years old. I was never much of a traveler, I had a great motorcycle and that satisfied my thirst for traveling. It was mostly in state just me and the open road it was enough, at the time. Life changes, priorities and desires also change and the next thing you know you’re getting on an airplane for a 14 hour flight to South Korea and then another 6 hour flight to Bangkok. Honestly I didn’t believe I would be able to sit on an airplane for that long, I learned something about myself that was always there gnawing at me, I am a chronic YES man. I still do it, mostly it’s a situational yes not just me agreeing to do whatever anyone wants, it’s me agreeing to rake a yard or pull dead plants and plant new ones for the widow who hasn’t had a man around in decades and just can’t do it anymore. As I am writing this from my living room in Bangkok Preparing for our return trip to America I consider myself a traveling pro and still wonder how I got here… because I can’t say NO!?!?
What are your favorite physical activities or exercises?
Honestly I like them all… even the ones that suck. We all know a body in motion is a happy body, we have to keep moving to stay healthy but I don’t think it’s enough to just walk every day you have to incorporate a variety of exercises to keep from getting stagnant. I do walk every day I have 3/4 different routes I use I also run those routes as well as others, I lift weights and do push myself just a little farther but am wary to not injure myself. Health and fitness is our responsibility alone, your doctor can recommend it but if you’re not willing to get uncomfortable and possibly hurt yourself a little then maybe it’s not for you. Now if you’ll excuse me the water is looking very beautiful and I want to swim.