There are so many experiences in life I think the key is to recognize the ones that impact the most. usually it’s the ones that are the worse, the ones that hurt the most that crush your soul until you no longer want to go on. As a child experiences should be enjoyable like a friends birthday party or a Christmas filled with gifts or that hurt enough to teach you but not change you. Your first crush that didn’t turn out like you wanted, a broken heart can hurt and be a great lesson in life. Adulthood brings some downright terrifying experiences, the world of the unknown like how happy your marriage is going to be only to find out your in the wrong marriage, she wasn’t the one that’s after two wonderful experiences with the birth of your sons and then the horrible experience of divorce which robs you of your will to live or do anything but die. That experience alters your soul, crushes your heart to where you physically feel your heart breaking and can do nothing. Time is a great healer, it’s different for everyone for me it was many years filled with terrible experiences and very few good ones. I wouldn’t say I’m a better man today than twenty five years ago there are way too many scars on my heart and soul to say I’m better or worse different for sure, but that’s the beauty of experiences good and bad they shape us into the people we see in the mirror today and without them there isn’t that person.