Not even close. I would also say my life has been nothing that I planned or expected. As a child I did have aspirations, but “shit happens” and you have to learn to adapt, so any dreams I had were crushed by the reality of the real world. I will say my parents supported me and my brothers, but not in a good way. My dad worked all the time and provided and good home for us, mom was a stay at home mom and made sure we had everything we needed as far as food, shelter, clothes, friends, toys and a warm and healthy environment. What they didn’t provide as we got older was the support needed to pursue our dreams. When we turned sixteen they simply said go get a job, that was their only guidance into adulthood. And we did because we wanted a car which was freedom for us and oddly it was our independence, but we needed to earn money for the things we wanted. Our parents still provided a home food clean clothes all without charging us rent so it wasn’t completely bad. The problem was it made for a very small world to live in, and that was where the tragedy was. I wanted to join the military so I can find my way and hopefully see some other countries, well that was out of the question in my house. I would say most all of my adult decisions were made by me with my parents in mind, if I wanted to travel cross country how upset or angry would they be? More so my mother more than my father there we job opportunities that did pay well but there was travel involved and maybe some risk factors so my mother would say no and just become miserable so we had to take the lesser job to please her. Of the four boys my parents had I was the only one to move away… far away in order to do that I had to destroy the life I was living and hurt people I loved and risk incarceration. I left at thirty eight years old way too old to go after my childhood dreams so I had to go after the new ones the ones I could never to in the presence of my parents. Today at sixty five years old I am living a life I never in a million years thought I would. My parents are long gone so they will never see the happiness and contentment on their son’s face, they will never hear of the adventures of traveling that my wife and I do. My life is amazing and totally without a plan, there was a ton of fear and uncertainty, a lot of risk and prayers and if anyone asks me how I got here I quickly say the truth… I have no idea.