Dan the man

I believe it’s a little bit of both. We come into the world pretty much an empty vessel I mean we have our parents DNA and genetics, but we’re still lacking a personality, morals and values the things that make us who we are and we get those things from our parents our family. Then as we grow and we interact with other people during those early teen years when our chemistry is really churning up we become ourselves more of an individual. Our interest are high as we find search for more of ourselves and we’re surrounded by hundreds of thousands of other people, some we are drawn to, you don’t know why but you’re need to be around them is unexplained that feeling you can never put into words and that doesn’t mean they’re are soul mate or future spouse, I believe it’s at a molecular level when we see those ones that we can’t get enough of. It may only be for a day week or month and then it’s over the feeling fades you’re done ready to move on to find another attraction. Experiences both good and bad shape us into the people we are at that moment, we have all the memories but we need not continue to live, ideally we continue to move forward it’s how we grow, how we learn of our inner strengths to become the person we want to be.